Showing posts with label memoir. Show all posts
Showing posts with label memoir. Show all posts

Sunday, May 31, 2026

Don't Worry (memoir) by Leanne Dyck

In my mid-twenties, I was a hopeless romantic, hopelessly lost in dreams. Luckily, I had a friend that assured me that my hopes and dreams could become reality. Fortunately, I still have that friend today; "Don't Worry" was written with appreciation for that friend.


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My husband Byron and our dog Abby on a recent visit to Vancouver Island.

 Don't Worry

Come with me for a sec, and we'll travel to the past—1989. Yes, we're walking through the University of Winnipeg campus. Our destination is that three-story building just across the street. There's a day care centre on the main floor. Follow me up the stairs.

Yes, this is the classroom. Looks familiar, huh? The rows of steel-framed desks? The large window at the back of the room? The teacher's desk? The blackboard? Yes, you've—we've been here before. 

Oh, you noticed them too, eh? Don't worry. They can't see us. We're safe behind the one-way glass of time. 

Words flow easily between the two women. They chat about assignments, classes, professors, children, and... The brunette produces a photo of her two-year-old son. 

"He's adorable!" The blonde coos. "You're so lucky. You have everything."

"Well, I don't know if I have—"

"Everything. A husband. A son. I don't even have a boyfriend. I don't think I'll ever have—" 

"Sure you will."

"I hope so."

"Don't worry. It'll happen."

"How do you know?"

"I'm lucky, and I share my luck with my friends. So..."

"So?"

"So, don't waste time worrying. Have fun. It'll happen. Trust."

She sounded so sure that the blonde had no choice but to believe. And you know what? The brunette was right. It did happen. The blonde fell in love, she got married, and she lived happily ever after. And it was all because the brunette helped her belief. 

written in February, 2026




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On this blog in June



Sunday, June 7

"Flare for Writing" (short memoir)

Sunday, June 14

"Spelling Bee" (short memoir)

Sunday, June 21

Sharing the Light by Monique Gray Smith (book review)

Sunday, June 28

"My Aunt's Kitchen" (short memoir)

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Sunday, May 24, 2026

CGIT by Leanne Dyck (memoir)

Groups have shaped many aspects of my life. I had a fourteen-year career as an Early Childhood Educator caring for groups of children. In my twenties, I became a Katimavik participant and volunteered in three eastern Canadian provinces. And when I was twelve, I joined CGIT. What's CGIT? Well...

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CGIT

Linda, Colleen, Susan, and...and... How many of us were there? Maybe eight or nine or maybe even ten. We met at our leader Donna's house each week—she lived in "town", very close to the school. She and her co-leader, Bobbie, always had something fun for us to do.

As a Canadian girl in training
under the leadership of Jesus
It is my purpose to
Cherish health
Seek truth
Know God
and serve others
And thus with His help
Become the girl God would have me be.

We began each meeting by reciting our motto, and it was as religious as we got. Or maybe there was a short prayer that followed. We were mostly Protestants, but I think there may have been some Catholics. CGIT is a non-denominational Christian organization.

After the reciting... After the prayer... What exactly did we do?

I remember once Donna or maybe Bobbie presented us with this moral dilemma. We were to imagine that we were stuck on a deserted island and only had enough rations for half the group. We were all assigned roles—some of us were to play senior citizens. Others... Well, the castaways were a diverse group. But I choose, or maybe I was assigned, to play a twenty-something guy. Individually, we were to present our case for why we should be allowed to live. Few got into their roles as much as I did. I used all my creative energy to craft his character. He spoke to me so clearly. It was like he was alive.

"Without me, all the rest of you would die," he told that group of girls—through me.

It was the 70s. The time of women's liberation. So they thought they didn't need him. I can't remember the verdict, but I do remember how hard I defended him. 

I remember Donna got this letter from the head office in Toronto. In the letter the CGIT higher-ups explained that we were supposed to buy this uniform—they called it a middy. We all pooh-poohed that idea immediately. A dress? That dress? No! We were modern gals. We put our heads together and designed our own uniform—jeans and a sky blue scoop-neck tee with black felt letters—CGIT—across the front. 

"What do the letters stand for?" some asked.

"Cutest Girls In Town," we said.

As a group we went to the CGIT conference in Winnipeg. All the other groups were in middies. They stared at our jeans and tees. We thought we could read their minds. They judged us to be hicks from the sticks. 

One of the girls broke away from her group and came over to talk to us. "Your uniforms are so cool," she told us. "Everyone wishes that they thought of it. Instead of having to wear these stupid dresses."

Oh, yeah, and I almost forgot. We also drove to a lodge somewhere close to Eriksdale to camp. I made breakfast but, unfortunately, burnt the French toast. And my friend Susan and I went to CGIT camp in Lake Brereton. It took hours and hours to get there. It was the first time I was away from home. And I wasn't homesick. Well, not much. We had a talent night. My cabin acted out the words to the folk song The Harlem Goat. You know, the song about the goat who ate three red shirts and flagged a train. And-- And-- So much more. But that's enough for now. Except to say that when I had my eighteenth birthday and aged out of the group, Donna asked me to welcome the new girls by reciting our motto. I can still remember standing at the front of the church, behind the pulpit, and leaning into the microphone...

As a Canadian girl in training
under the leadership of Jesus
It is my purpose to
Cherish health
Seek truth
Know God
and serve others
And thus with His help
Become the girl God would have me be.

written in 2025



On this blog in May




Sunday, May 24
"Don't Worry"
Written with much thanks to a friend who helped me believe in "happy ever after" endings.




Sunday, May 17, 2026

Like Him (memoir) by Leanne Dyck

As a dyslexic student in the 1960s, school definitely had its challenges. Some were academic. Others were interpersonal.

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Like Him

He is a mountain of a boy. His catcher's mitt hands are calloused from farm work. His body is a solid mass of muscles. The government informed his father that he needed to be in school. So in school is where he is, but he refuses to learn. Teacher after teacher failed the challenge. Now he is in class with me. I don't know who I'm more afraid of, him or the young teacher, fresh out of university, who thinks she can make him learn. Wielding a yardstick, she storms up the aisle. The rest of us freeze—too scared to breathe. He disentangles himself from the desk and towers over her. She swings. He meets wood with fists.

Someone is going to get hurt.

I squeeze my eyes shut.

His cornea is scratched. Her hair is pulled; her nose bleeds. He stops when he realizes what he has done. What has he done? He squares his shoulders and marches out of school—free.

He'll be back. The months have taught me that, but little else. My classmates continue to learn regardless.

"Leanne?" the teacher calls on me to supply an answer.

I rack my brain in my desperate attempt to find the correct answer. All I can think is how much she must hate me. In her eyes, I'm like that mountain of a boy—a black smudge on her career. When will she whack me with that yardstick?


I have a new favourite film.

Please watch What Is Dyslexia




On this blog in May




Sunday, May 24
"CGIT"
Groups have shaped many aspects of my life. I had a fourteen-year career as an Early Childhood Educator caring for groups of children. In my twenties, I became a Katimavik participant and volunteered in three eastern Canadian provinces. And when I was twelve, I joined CGIT. What's CGIT? Well...

Sunday, May 24
"Don't Worry"
Written with much thanks to a friend who helped me believe in "happy ever after" endings.




Sunday, May 3, 2026

Playmates (memoir) by Leanne Dyck

I was blessed to have fun male cousins to entertain me as I grew. 

This short memoir is a tribute to them. 


My photo of the street where I live
inspired me to share this link to one of my favourite songs.

The Street Where You Live sung by Dean Martin

Playmates

My playtime was enriched by three male cousins. One was a parkour enthusiast before parkour became a thing (in the 1990s). He would scale high heights and dangle precariously. Another, a sorcerer's apprentice, swallowed a piece of thread. He pulled one end of the thread out of his mouth and the other out of a nostril. As I watched, amazed, the thread see-sawed between mouth and nostril. The eldest of the three was the author of our playtime adventures. He instructed us to haul an old door to the slough. The door became a raft, and we sailed the seven seas.

On a different day, we were playing inside, and he told me, "We're cowboys, and we're going to ride off on our horses. But you stay here," he told me. "Scream when the bad guys come. We'll rescue you."

I waited, as directed. Judging it was time, I let loose a mighty scream.

My aunt raced in just before the boys did. "Are you okay, Leanne?" she asked.

"We're just playing," I assured her.

She frowned at me and my party of would-be rescuers. "Go play outside," and she added, "Play quieter."

So we ran outside to play superheroes. I was no longer a damsel in distress. Instead, I put my fists on my hips and shouted, "Wonder Woman!" Then I leapt into action—throwing my lasso of truth and deflecting bullets with my gold bracelets. Our invisible foes didn't stand a chance.


written in 2025



On this blog in May



Sunday, May 10
"Pregnant" (memoir)
Inspired by imagining how my dad reacted to my mom suspecting she may be pregnant with their fourth child—me.

Sunday, May 17
"Like Him" (memoir)
As a dyslexic student in the 1960s, school definitely had its challenges. Some were academic. Others were interpersonal.

Sunday, May 24
"CGIT"
Groups have shaped many aspects of my life. I had a fourteen-year career as an Early Childhood Educator caring for groups of children. In my twenties, I became a Katimavik participant and volunteered in three eastern Canadian provinces. And when I was twelve, I joined CGIT. What's CGIT? Well...

Sunday, May 24
"Don't Worry"
Written with much thanks to a friend who helped me believe in "happy ever after" endings.



Sunday, May 25, 2025

Wenlido (short memoir) by Leanne Dyck

How does a rural gal adjust to life in an intimidating big city? My solution...

When in your life did you feel the strongest?

photo by ldyck
 


 Wenlido

I graduated from high school and was eager to kick over the traces of my small town. My heart held no fear, only dreams of an exciting life. Winnipeg delivered. I attended university and met my husband, and... I had many great adventures.

When I moved from Winnipeg (population 702,396) to Greater Vancouver (population 2,132,800), my confidence was shaken. Are the streets safe? What would I do if something happened? These questions haunted my sleepless nights.

Trying to calm my anxiety, I signed up for a women's self-defence course—Wenlido. The class was led by a capable and caring instructor. I learnt to de-escalate problems before they arose by initiating a conversation, aim for the kneecaps, not the crotch, and how to break out of a wrist hold. The class culminated with the ultimate challenge—breaking a board with your hand. If I were successful, nothing could stop me. If I failed... If I failed, I could break my hand.

The instructor and my fellow participants cheered me on. "Come on, Leanne, you've got this. Slice that board in half. Visualize your hand sailing right through."

I swung my hand back and then forward. Down... Down... Down. Snap. The board broke. My hand didn't. 

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I walked out of that class with my head held high. Whatever happened, I was ready.


written on December 13, 2005



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On this blog in June...

Sunday, June 1

Floating Away (children's story)

...about sailing away on a bed boat...

Sunday, June 8

Children's Hospital (short memoir)

...about the day I was assessed as dyslexic

Sunday, June 15

Tying Laces with my Dad (short memoir)

 When I have trouble tying my shoelaces, my dad...

Sunday, June 22

Book Review for Indigenous Day

Two Tricksters Find Friendship by Johnny Aitken and Jess Willows

...is a year in the life of a new mutually supportive friendship between Jessie, a white girl, and Johnny, an Indigenous boy

Sunday, June 29

Book Reviews for Canada Day

Canadian Reads: a collection of my favourite books by Canadian authors

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Without a reader,

A writer's words mean

Nothing


Learn more...

Sunday, May 4, 2025

Book Review: All the Little Monsters by David A. Robertson (memoir)

builds community and leads the way to healing. I highly recommend this book to all those who want to learn how to live with anxiety.

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I usually share my writing on this blog, but I need to add to that list today. This book is too important not to share. 

I live with anxiety caused by trying to fit my round peg dyslexic self into this square peg world--and other stressors. And I have begun therapy for PTSD. Through the words David Robertson offers in this book, he has helped to make my journey easier--helping to level some mountains that I am climbing. For example, he taught me to see myself not as weak but as sick. That change might seem slight, but it was empowering for me--if I'm sick, I can seek help to heal. It is not a flaw within me, but something I am experiencing.

As Shelagh Rogers writes in the Foreword: 'The book you are holding is a treasure. David Robertson..is wide open, unflinchingly honest, and brave...' He genuinely cares about people and aims to create a supportive community for those who struggle with mental illness. And to that end, he shares strategies such as 'speak louder than [anxiety] can to change the way you see yourself and the world around you.' (p. 18) He shares a healing mindset: 'There's no place for judgment anywhere in the world of mental health, not towards yourself, and not towards others. I have come to learn that kindness, above all else, is the most productive thing.' (p. 19) He stresses that kindness, understanding, and empathy are tools of healing. 

In the final chapter of All the Little Monsters, David Robertson writes: 'I want you to feel comfortable, even if a lot of this can be uncomfortable. I want you to feel as if we've sat together and I've told you a story in person, sitting across from one another, face to face.' He has succeeded in this goal. Reading this book is like talking to a friend who has jumped into the hole you have fallen into and is showing you the way out.

All the Little Monsters: How I Learned to Live with Anxiety

David A. Robertson

(memoir)

HarperCollins Publishers Ltd

2025




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On this blog in May


Sunday, May 11

Memoir: Tips

Once upon a time, I was asked to help serve tables at a country inn and I...

Sunday, May 18

Children's Story: Ethan's Ferry Trip

For the first time, Ethan travels with his mother on a ferry, and he...

Sunday, May 25

Memoir: Wenlido

Intimidated by the thought of moving from Winnipeg to the heavily populated city of Vancouver, I...




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A thoughtful friend gave me a bouquet of lilacs last Thursday. Lilac bushes framed the backyard of my childhood home, and their scent now fills my home, conjuring images of happy moments from my childhood—a balm for this healing time.

Sunday, August 11, 2024

Learning to Walk (short memoir) by Leanne Dyck

 When did you learn to walk?

I remember that day so clearly, but... is this my memory or my mom's?


May 1963
The day I learned to walk.


Learning to Walk

    "You were eighteen months old when you learned to walk."

    "Mom, that's so late. Most babies learn to walk around their first birthday. Weren't you concerned that there was something wr—?"

    "Oh, you could walk if you held our hands or the furniture. You just weren't brave enough to let go. But the day you turned eighteen months, your brothers were determined you would learn. They set up four stacking stools, end to end, down the centre of the living room and left a gap between the last stool and the sofa. One of your brothers—I can't remember which one, it doesn't matter—held your hands and guided you to the first stool in the row. You grabbed hold, and he joined the rest of us on the sofa. 

"With our encouragement, you started on your way—walking the length of the stool and grabbing for the next. Stool after stool until you walked the length of the last stool. You stood there facing us.

"And when you finally let go and walked... Well, such cheering. I'm sure they heard us one town over.

"I always knew you would walk. You just needed a reason. Your brothers, they gave you that reason."


Learning to Stand
Leanne Dyck

Before I could crawl,
I never dreamed I could walk

People carried me and
I was content in their arms


A few minutes ago I was in the Mayne Island library listening to a panel of writers discussing writing. I took notes and look forward to sharing them with you in the near future. 


Next Sunday...

Sunday, May 12, 2024

Rural Manitoba Memories by Leanne Dyck (family memoir) part 6

 In Part Five of Rural Manitoba Memories, you learned what my dad did during and after World War Two, how he met my mother, and how they suffered through having three boys before being rewarded by... (joking)? 

And now for the rest of the story...

Dad: When Leanne was in elementary school, in 1970, Ollie started work in the hospital first in the laundry department—where they started at six thirty.

Ollie liked cooking and moved to the kitchen as a cook’s helper and then before she left she was the assistant cook and started at 9:15 AM. Ollie left the hospital after fifteen years.

Interlake Spectator Newspaper: Mr. Jim Willetts, Postmaster for 31 years [1950-1981] at the Eriksdale Post Office, was honoured by about 200 people from the community and area as they gathered to pay tribute and express their appreciation to Jim at a surprise retirement party for him on August 15th [1981]...

As well as performing the duties of postmaster, Jim provided service over and above the call of duty. He was someone who people would turn to for advice and counsel; he would rewrap parcels with string and paper if they looked like they needed better protection. Besides these things, Jim's good sense of humour lightened the day for many people. 

In other words, Jim has been more than a Postmaster. He has been a friend to countless people from all walks of life and to people of all ages.

It was humourly suggested by the M.C. that Jim's influence was so great that his retirement caused the whole postal system to shutdown...

With Jim's retirement as postmaster of the Eriksdale Post Office, another era has come to an end, but we know that Jim will continue to serve the people of this community and this area with devotion and dedication.


Dad in the 1950s

Dad: Ollie and I continue to live at the junction of Highways 6 and 68. We have no regrets at leaving British Columbia and making our home in the Manitoba Interlake.

Uncle Jim: I am very proud to call Jim my friend. No one could have a better one. He was honest and true, but in later days, in spite of all his friends he was lonely, tired and sick. Now he is where he wants to be, with his beloved Ollie.

Leanne: Mom passed away on April 28, 1998. Dad on December 11, 1999.


Lasting Love

Leanne

This story was inspired by the love I witnessed in my mom's palliative care room.


Defenceless, I lay in this cage of sheets and blankets as cancer prowls, leaps, sinks its teeth into my flesh and devours me--piece by piece. I struggle for life; all I gain is courage.


My husband stands straight, tall, so close to my bed. He is all I see. He is my life. His long, thin, weathered fingers stroke my brow. My life is in his touch.

Our love has endured so much--worry, anger, misunderstanding, longing, pain. Will it endure this?

Others think he is strong but I see his damp eyes, his Adam's apple quiver, his erratic breathing. I know his fragility. My strongest desire is to keep him safe from sadness, from grief, from loss, from what is happening to me. I want to hold him and I want to tell him that we've won, that we will be together forever.

But though I fight, I am leaving him--slipping away.

He must withstand this. He must be strong. I will give him strength. I frown at him, with soft eyes. Don't let it win. Have faith. Our love is stronger. I tell him with my eyes.

"May I kiss you?" He is always a gentleman.

"If you dare." I grin. He's used to my teasing.

Our lips--our hearts touch.

"Was it worth it?" I ask. "Was it worth your life?"

"Oh." He breathes. "Oh, yes." He forces a smile.

Then I know; I know we've won; I know our love will never die.


I'm indebted to the Eriksdale Municipal Heritage Advisory Committee, whose hard work published the Beyond Beginnings: Eriksdale History Book in 1996 and Lucy Lindell who published Memory Opens the Door in 1970 and 1974 (second printing). Other sources included a toast to the bride written by Aunty Kay and an obituary written by Uncle Jim. Writing this memoir is an act of loving tribute that I plan to continue--digging more deeply, unearthing more memories.

It's been 14 years since I visited Eriksdale. In two days, on May 14, I'll sail from Mayne Island and board a plane in Victoria, BC. I'll fly all the way "home" to Eriksdale. Someone should warn them. Not only will I be visiting Manitoba but I'll also... I'll tell you all about my trip when I come "home" to Mayne Island. Bye for now...

Thank you for reading

Rural Manitoba Memories

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Sunday, April 21, 2024

Rural Manitoba Memoirs by Leanne Dyck (family memoir) part 3

In Part Two of Rural Manitoba Memories, you learned that the First World War was hard on my grandfather and grandmother. This Sunday...?

After WWI, many soldiers returned to Canada to farm or to teach school or to... My grandfather... And what about my grandmother? Did they remain in Manitoba...in Eriksdale?

This is the house where my dad was born. I lived in this house until I was 20.
My grandfather built some if not all of this house.

Rural Manitoba Memories


Aunty Kay: Daddy returned in the spring of 1919.

Dad: I was born in Eriksdale in 1920 and as there was no hospital here I decided the easiest and simplest course was for me to be born at home, which I was—home being the house where we still live at the junction of highway 6 and 68.

Aunty Kay: In 1922, I arrived to complete the family.

Grandma: Home from the war, Jim decided to open a Tea Shop. We reasoned the farmers’ horses need a rest—the farmer also needs a spot of refreshment, like a cup of tea and buns—so in 1920, opened the shop. Jim couldn’t do it alone, so we added rooms on the back of the shop and moved in. Jimmie was 2 years old, Kay six months.

Dad: Eriksdale was an exciting, interesting place for a boy to grow up.

We lived downtown, where all the action was; farmers driving their horses to do their shopping and other business. Passenger trains and freight trains passed through town. Almost every night we would have a rock train thunder down the track.

We had four general stores, a butcher shop, two hotels, one of which was three stories high, there were a couple of blacksmith shops, a grain elevator, a creamery, and two garages.

Ward’s Garage was nearby. It was a favourite hang-out of mine until I began using colourful language that I’d picked up there. My mother was not impressed; decided if I was able to learn those words I could learn better things. So at the age of five, I was off to school.

My teachers were all dedicated people who worked very hard to give me an education.

Equipment and teaching aids were not readily available at the time so improvisation and inspiration were the tools they used.

Grandma: We were ten years in the restaurant business, gradually taking in a stock of groceries. As cars came in, the tea shop business declined and at last was dropped.


OTHER PEOPLE'S MEMORIES

Leanne (Willetts) Dyck


One of my summer jobs during High School was as a tour guide at the Eriksdale Museum. I enjoyed losing myself in other people's memories.

Maybe locals came in but I don't remember them. Tourists were the ones who stood out. They wanted to learn about us and the museum was their introduction. Most traveled from other parts of Manitoba or Canada or even from the United States. A man came from England. He impressed me by using four place names in his address. And I remember a woman. I'll always remember her.

I greeted her with a smile. "Hello, I'm Leanne Willetts."

And she said, "Willetts? Your grandfather, Mr. J.H. Willetts, owned a Red and White store. He sold groceries, dry goods, and cattle feed.


"The depression was hard on farmers like my dad. He needed feed for our cows, but he didn't have any money. Those cows were the only things keeping the wolf from our door. So, he swallowed his pride and asked your grandfather to loan him the feed.

"Mr. Willetts was a businessman. He needed to make money--his family needed to eat. But you know what your grandfather did?" Her eyes were wet with tears as she told me, "He gave my dad the feed--gave it to him."

Yes, I'll always remember her.

Aunty Kay: When they closed the lunch room [tea shop], we moved back to the house on the corner of what is now Highway 6 and 68.

Uncle Jim: Jim and I began our friendship in our early teens. Jim spent almost as much time at our house as he did at home. To begin with, everyone called him Jimmie the Kid, but that was soon shortened to just Kid.

We played hardball on the senior team, only because they needed all the bodies they could get. Jim played right field for a time. Jim also played goal for our hockey team.

If the other team got the first goal Jim would grit his teeth and they had to work hard to get any more! He played goal for Lundar too when our team thought they had a better goalie. He showed us a thing or two then!

Later on when I started driving truck, I would go and pick up Jim to go with me. Sometimes at night I would go and tap on his window to wake him up—NOT on his sister’s window! [Uncle Jim married Aunty Kay in the spring of 1946—and they lived happily ever after.] I was always afraid that their super-hound Snip would take a piece out of me! One year Jim drove for Pop, we went to all the country dances we could afford and got so we could do the Shottishe and all that.

Dad: All good things come to an end and school ended.

Leanne: My dad was sixteen when he attained the highest level of education available in Eriksdale, at the time—grade eleven. However, he continued to self-educate throughout his life. He especially enjoyed reading both religious and scientific books.


I'm blessed to come from a family of writers. People who wrote for fun and to build community. Their writing built this memoir.


 The memories continue...

Read the next installment of 

Rural Manitoba Memories



More about Eriksdale...

Sunday, April 14, 2024

Rural Manitoba Memories by Leanne Dyck (family memoir) part 2

 In Part One of Rural Manitoba Memories,  you learned that my grandpa Willetts planted a seed in Eriksdale, Manitoba's rocky soil, that grew the tree that eventually produced me. This Sunday...?

Among my family's legacy is the story of the toll waiting takes on women during the time of war. 

I'm guessing but I think the woman in this photo is my grandma Willetts 
and I think she was a nurse's aide during WWI.


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Aunty Kay: My mother was born in Manchester, England and came to Canada to stay with her sister-in-law and her three young nephews while my uncle Tom was working in Winnipeg.

Grandma: Mrs. Everette and I (I was twelve years younger than she) often talked about writing a book, in our younger days. We both had a good sense of humour, she used to say, “We’ll tell them what it is really like, living up here, how I broke my best Sunday-go-to-meeting parasol over the oxen’s back when he decided to walk into a mud hole to rest and relax on the way home from town.”

Aunty Kay: Uncle Tom’s homestead was next to my dad’s. My mom and dad were married the following year.

Leanne: My grandparents married on December 18, 1913. Seven months later—on July 28, 1914—the First World War was declared.

Grandma: Tom went overseas in 1914 and within nine months he was dead. Jim went overseas in 1916.

Leanne: As a newlywed, and while grieving her brother, Grandma had to watch her newly wedded husband march off to war. I can’t even imagine how much courage, strength, and faith she must have possessed. How many times did she twist the Mizpah ring on her finger and offer a silent prayer?

Mizpah Prayer

May the Lord watch between me and thee while we are parted, one from another.


Grandpa was a pacifist. He requested to serve as a stretcher-bearer. The army, in its wisdom, made him a gunner.

Aunty Kay: Daddy served overseas at Arras, Lens and Passchendaele with the 16th Canadian Scottish under Colonel Peck.

Leanne: TheCanadian Encyclopedia describes Lens as ‘the first major action fought by the Canadian Corps under a Canadian commander.

Colonel Cyrus Wesley Peck was awarded the Victoria Cross and the Distinguished Service Order for acts of bravery.


A Tale From The First World War

A. J. Willetts [my dad]

published in Memory Opens the Door, 1974


One day after the folks had moved to BC, they were back here visiting and Dad went with me to the train to pick up the mail for the Post Office.

One of the crew stepped off the train and Dad said, "Well if it isn't Wilfred Lamb."

They shook hands and, pleased to meet each other, immediately began talking. As they chatted Dad told Mr. Lamb about a notice he had found on the wall of a bombed-out building in France, during the First World War. The notice advertised a boxing match, to be held in Eriksdale, between Wilfred Lamb, Peter Whittall and others.

Thinking the paper would be of interest to Mr. Lamb, Dad arranged to meet him on the station next morning when the train went south, to give it to him. Then he went on to tell me how he had come by the notice.

"I was with the 16th Canadian, and they were a pretty tough regiment. It didn't matter how tired we were, we always marched back from the lines. But, there came a day at Passchendaele, when the regiment was in bad shape, we were told to make our way back as best we could. I was so weary I just had to sit down to rest.

"While I rested, my pack of ammunition slipped off unnoticed and I had gone quite a distance before I realized what had happened. Without protection, I would not get far, so I picked up the rifle and ammunition of the first dead German soldier I came across and continued to make my way back. I met one of our officers and hurried to explain the lost equipment and my reluctance to be travelling in that area without some means of protection.

" 'Good thinking, soldier, carry on,' was his comment.

"When I came across the bombed-out shell of a building, I knew it was time to rest awhile, for I was incredibly tired. I probably dozed a bit, then as I looked around in the dim light I could see 'ERIKSDALE' in huge letters on the wall opposite my resting place. That shook my confidence considerably. It just could not be, not here in France. But, it was there. Each time I looked up I could see it. Clearly, I had become deranged, 'looped' as some of the fellows called it. I hurried away from that spot, yet, that word 'ERIKSDALE' on that wall haunted me. Had I been seeing things, or was it real?

Next day I went back to that place. It was there. On a great big notice! A notice telling of a boxing match, to be held in far away Eriksdale, Manitoba. My home town! I took it down and sent it home and that is the paper I shall give to Wilfred Lamb, tomorrow."

How did the notice get on a wall in France? Who knows? I have pondered that question many times.

Probably, someone from 'home' had sent it to their soldier at the front. He, for want of something better to do, had hung it there—and perhaps for a few moments forgot the Hell of War as he gazed at an ordinary notice from home—and savored in dreams, the day when he would be 'going home'. 

It is quite a few years since that day. Wilfred Lamb passed away not long after and I have often thought I should have had a copy made of that notice, but—one is inclined to put off things not of immediate concern. Now, it is too late.

I'm blessed to come from a family of writers. People who wrote for fun and to build community. Their writing built this memoir.


The memories continue...

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Rural Manitoba Memories